To be selfish or “selfishness” is a natural trait that all humans share. It is the same having hunger, thirst, emotions, etc. Things that are commonly misunderstood to be selfishness or used as synonyms for the word selfish such as unkindness, egotism, introversion, or self-obsession are individual traits and it is important for us to know the difference.
While selfishness has become an all-encompassing term is if far from it. Thinking of it as anything but a natural trait harms us. It does not force us to critically analyze and consider the true nature of a situation. Understanding the concept of selfishness and what it truly means to be selfish gives us the power to determine how we can adequately respond in peculiar situations. It also helps us to defend ourselves from being bullied or guilted into doing things we do not want to do or making life choices we do not want to make.
We need to understand the true concept of selfishness so we can accurately gage our environment, relationships and connections with others. We need to be aware of those who call us selfish in order to try and stop us from doing things we enjoy or guilt us into doing things we do not enjoy. On the other hand, we also need to be diligent in calling people out for what they really are. Selfishness, as it is currently used is a very ambiguous term. If we are speaking to someone who is unkind and self-obsessed it is important for us to know the difference. We need to understand what we are actually dealing with.