Automatic Thoughts

We’ve all heard of a knee-jerk reaction or a knee-jerk decision. It is about time we discuss our knee-jerk thoughts, or our “automatic” thoughts. Automatic thoughts are thought processes or mental images that are triggered during certain situations. Let’s use an example of our imaginary friend Joe. Joe started a new job and he is … Continue reading Automatic Thoughts

Selfish: Common Misconceptions Explained with Real Life Examples

Understanding the concept of selfishness, and how it is misunderstood, will help us correctly define the world around us and can help us defend ourselves when we are being wrongfully guilted into doing something we do not want to do. Example 1: Consider a driver who decides to holds everyone else up to let someone … Continue reading Selfish: Common Misconceptions Explained with Real Life Examples

Selfish: We Have It All Wrong

To be selfish or “selfishness” is a natural trait that all humans share. It is the same having hunger, thirst, emotions, etc. Things that are commonly misunderstood to be selfishness or used as synonyms for the word selfish such as unkindness, egotism, introversion, or self-obsession are individual traits and it is important for us to … Continue reading Selfish: We Have It All Wrong

Selfishness: Dissecting the Current Misguided Definition

The dictionary definition of the word “selfish” is completely incorrect. Let’s just dive right on in, shall we? 1. Not sure if this should be an adjective or not. On one hand it is an adjective, as it describes a trait of the human race. On the other hand, it is a noun because it … Continue reading Selfishness: Dissecting the Current Misguided Definition

Redefining Selfishness

First, let me say that coming up with a new definition for a concept that is incorrectly used across an entire society is much more difficult than one may think. Second, let me tell you, the reason for this series is to outline that we (human kind) are using the term selfish incorrectly. While this … Continue reading Redefining Selfishness

Scapegoating, How Others Use It to Control and Manipulate Us

“I am not your puppet master.” When I said those words, it felt like an epiphany, but it sure did not look like what you would expect an epiphany to look like. The sky did not open, there was no bright light shining down on me. Due to fear, my face showed no emotion. I … Continue reading Scapegoating, How Others Use It to Control and Manipulate Us

Pizza or Tacos?

Pizza or wings? Beach or mountains? Questions I’ve been asked on dating sites. Some people use these questions to judge another person’s personality. While these questions seem harmless and fun they can actually propagate a very limiting style of thinking that can keep us from living our best lives. Binaries (like pizza or tacos) are … Continue reading Pizza or Tacos?